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Dear Busy Pinata,
I signed up for some free group mentoring sessions awhile ago. Our volunteer leader missed the first meeting because he overslept. We gave him another chance but he missed it again today, and I’m not sure what to do. Should we call him out on it, give him another chance, et al. I don’t want to get him in trouble with his supervisor, because he sounds really kind in the emails and has helped me online one-on-one. However, I’m getting frustrated and really want to get a jump on the in-person group sessions. How would I say this politely to make sure he shows up next week?
Oh, we’ve all been there. It’s likely that something else is going on in your leader’s personal life, such as working longer hours, increased tasks at work/school in general, or even some form of illness or sadness that is affecting his ability to regulate his sleep schedule. We’ve all had those bad times and for me, I know I’ve woken up next to someone else’s pinata more times than I care to remember, confetti just serving to remind me of the guilt.
It seems that your leader genuinely cares about your progress, so I would recommend just reaching out to him in private, specifically to ask if everything is okay in his life and if he’d like someone to talk to. Sometimes even just offering to be there for someone can help tremendously, especially in times of high stress/busy times.
I know that you’re getting sick of his behavior, but letting him know that you’re willing to forgive him if he attends the next session will make him more willing to actually attend. Often times with clubs or meeting-groups, missing the first few meetings can make people even more anxious to attend the next one, and so on and so on, simply because they continue to feel bad about being absent and that they would be out of the loop if they attended after the initial start.
Bringing up to him the possibility of having a co-leader to alleviate the stresses could also work well. That being said, if your leader starts responding disrespectfully, without remorse, or continues this behavior in excess, just don’t worry about it and politely bring the issue up to his supervisor. Cheers! -The Busy Pinata
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Good luck with everything :) --The Busy Pinata
Thanks for writing! That sounds like a great opportunity! The best advice I can give you is to remind yourself of your passion for the field and your excitement about being considered for the position. I’ve interviewed lots of people before and I find myself drawn to those who aren’t necessarily the highest-skilled, but who truly display a personal connection to the mission of the project, and general common-sense skills that indicate
Dear Busy Pinata,
Do you have any advice for a Japanese who will do interview for American medical fellowship soon? I would want to make good impressions. I am a little apprehensive so any help will be appreciated. Thank you.
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